Law of Attraction says: like energies attract. We have to feel loved, before we can attract love.
Have you been wondering why you can’t attract a loving partner?
Does it often take a lot of your energy and work to get what you want in life in general?
In order to attract loving partner (and in fact anything else), we have to love our selves first. Sounds cheese, but its true.
We all want to be loved by someone who loves as just as we are. Yet so many people have a such high expectations on how they have to look, how successful they have to be or how thin they should be in order to be a person that someone could fall in love with.
Today’s media full of airbrushed women with perfect bodies and every hair in the place is causing the endless search for perfection and many insecurities that are an illusionary obstacles for letting love into our lives.
HOW ARE WE SUPPOSE TO KNOW HOW TO LOVE SOMEONE ELSE , IF WE DON’T LOVE OUR SELVES AND WHO WE ARE?
There is a saying : ” You cant give something you don’t have”.
To allow for the constant flow of desired relationships or things manifesting into our lives we have to become a GOOD RECEIVER OF LOVE and LOVING ATTENTION.
Are you a good receiver of love?
Here is a little story about my girlfriend struggling with this problem, I’ d like to share with you:
I was out with a few of my good friends last night. It was girl’s night and we were catching up as usual. The five of us were talking about everything – man, work, and also family and never really behaving kids. I personally don’t have children yet, but I m in a very loving, wonderful relationship. One of us was pretty quiet most of the time as she really haven’t experienced being in a happy relationship yet and has made an assumption that she will most likely never marry or have children.
For a few minutes we have even discussed the option of adoption for her to be able to be a mom. It was braking my heart. Don’t get me wrong, I think adoption is a wonderful thing as there are so many children needing to be loved and taken care of, but I was sad that my friend was giving up on love for her self.
The habit of putting your self down. Quit it girl!
Lets call my friend Jenny. As long as I could remember she struggled with her weight and I have never heard her saying :” I like my body.” And we now know each other for 25 years. I think her curves are what some man are really looking and would appreciate very much.
The whole evening I have not heard her saying something that would indicate a loving relationship she would have with her own self. I tried to give her compliments to make her see that she deserves them. “I like your top “I said. Her reaction was : “Ohhhh, it’s so old and it stretched out”. Then I attempted to tell her, that I like her hair color. She really looks better now, when she is a blond. Her reaction:” Its so dry from the coloring, I don’t know what to do with it”.
I wanted to tell her: “Just say thank you and take the compliments in, please.” This task was impossible for her.
Do you have habits of rejecting the love of others around you?
Jenny is a wonderful, most caring, giving, funny and in my opinion attractive girl, but feeling loved is something she experiences so little, mostly because she is having such a hard time trying to find the reason why a man would love her.
While I could see many reasons why she should be in a loving relationship, she is not aware of just one. In a mean while, her habits of self criticism and and her poor ability to receive any form of love are keeping her in the place of hopelessness that she will never have a “normal”, happy life, husband and a family.
The importance of practicing the habit of receiving love well
My friend Jenny had so many an opportunities TO RECEIVE love from a friend last night, but she was not realizing it at all. It was frustrating for me to watch.
She kept subconsciously rejecting my efforts to show her my love for her as a friend. Learning how to take a compliment could be the first step to allowing the flow of love into our lives again. We have to start small sometimes to brake through the barriers we have built for our selves in the form of bad habits.
It is as an important to know how to receive it as it is to give.
Is your giving and receiving of love balanced out?
The Signs That You Maybe a Poor Receiver of Love
- You don’t take compliments very well. In fact, they make you uncomfortable.
- You tent to refuse any kind of help, not wanting to bother people or take their time, resources…
- You are independent woman. You never ask for help. BAD HABIT! QUIT IT GIRL!
- You have a hard time asking for the things you want.
- You have to work hard for things before you deserve them. Unexpected gifts make you uncomfortable.
- You are a polite person. You always say: “NO, Thank you”.
- Life seams to be hard and it’s only getting worse.
- You could call your self unlucky.
If you are displaying any of these symptoms, whether that makes sense or no, these are the reasons you may be still single. It’s not because you are not good enough, it’s because you keep thinking you are not good enough.
Saying YES to Love
So, it’s time to consciously start practicing receiving love. Here is your new best friend:
YES, THANK YOU.
Take it in and start practicing the new attitude of letting love in.
To get you rolling, here are some positive affirmations to start training your self to think of your self the way that makes you a magnet for love, all kinds of love.